With ex after 45 years: what prevents you from enjoying life
Life after 45 is wonderful: a career has already developed one way or another, financial stability has appeared, and there are several more years ahead when income will grow. Children, as a rule, have already grown up, and you can spend time and money on your pleasures. But for some reason, the joys of sex are becoming less and less. The editors of Passion.ru asked the experts why this happens and what to do about it.
Healthy sex in a healthy body
It is difficult to enjoy sex if it causes physical pain. Decreased production of sex hormones often leads to a feeling of dryness in the vagina. Local immunity also decreases, and anxiety for one’s health does not improve libido.
According to gynecologists, changes in physiology are not a sentence. During sex, you need to use suitable lubricants, be sure to protect yourself with barrier methods. In addition, according to indications, hormone replacement therapy can be selected. Age does not interfere with having sex and enjoying it; from the point of view of physiology, there are no obstacles.
Problems with sex can arise from where they did not expect – from the side of the joints, for example. It would seem, where is sex, and where is arthrosis. And there is a connection. “The arthrosis gene, as a rule, passes through the female line,” says orthopedist, traumatologist Ivan Eremin. – As a rule, large joints suffer: the hip and knee, because they carry the entire main load of the body. A person walks for 50 years, someone runs, someone jumps, someone gets injured, but in about 95% of cases, after 50, problems with the cartilage tissue of the joint begin. The cartilage begins to collapse, crack, lose its properties and gradually begins to exfoliate from the bone tissue.
Let us omit the medical details of the ongoing processes. “It is important that there are nerve endings in the bone tissue that are responsible for the pain syndrome,” the expert continues. – The brain, in response, gives the command to the adductor and flexor muscles (these are the inner and outer surfaces of the thigh) to contract. After some time, pain occurs not only in the joint itself, but the muscle cannot stretch as it should physiologically stretch. And when in the process of having sex you need to spread your legs, discomfort arises. Libido drops, sex life ends there. There is another dependence of sex on healthy joints. Violation of the work of one joint leads to a violation of the entire musculoskeletal system. The spine suffers, headaches begin, with which it is not at all up to intimate life.
So that the joints do not interfere with enjoying sex in any position, in the first place, you should not ignore even slight discomfort and self-medicate. “At this age, the peak of a career is reached, the peak of financial well-being, … Read the rest